The not so pretty truth

I have learned this tool through DBT to find the wise mind truth. When I say ugly things about myself, I know how to challenge the thoughts.

Example: Im stupid because I am dyslexic…

Reason why this statement is true- I am dyslexic and my 3rd grade teacher told me I was stupid.

Reasons why this statement is not true- I am dyslexic and made the deans list every semester in college.

My middle ground: Being dyslexic makes it difficult to understand things at times, and when I understand how to do something I am successful.

In the last few days I have heard one man say, “I love you… I’m not in love with you.”

The other said, “I am going to start going on dating sites.”

This hurts.

They both enjoy my company a lot… Like a lot. At least I do one thing well.

For some reason I am the girl that you take home, but not to your mother. 

I can challenge being stupid, being worthless, and most other things… But this romantically unlovable thing… I have nothing to counteract it with.

Honestly, if you can think of any reason that challenges this truth… Tell me. How do you balance the thought?